Harsh Truth Vs Loving Lie

Cherish the friend who tells you a harsh truth, wanting ten times more to tell you a loving lie.  ~Robert Brault

Being in a relationship, whether as a partner, friend, coach, or boss, often places you in the uncomfortable position of choosing between telling someone something that they absolutely will not want to hear or massaging the message into a false reassurance.  The truth can be colossally inconvenient.  A loving lie is so much easier to deliver and hear – in the short run.

Relationships cannot advance this way. Period.

We often kid ourselves into thinking that avoiding others anger and hurt is a loving thing to do. We can conjure all manner of justification for the convenience.  Face it, this is often just as much for you as the “feelings” of the other.

Telling your truth, without blame or judgment, can be deeply empowering – to you and the receiver. This comes from having the courage to speak your heartfelt truth when your intent is to support your own and others’ highest good.  People can handle way more than we often give credit.

Seeking the truth from your spouse, coach or boss – and being willing to listen, regardless of the message – can be just as daunting.  Sometimes you have to ask, then ask again and prove that you can hear what needs said.

If you have something that needs said, please do so.  I am pretty sure I can take it.  In return, I will try to do the same.

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