Set Someone Up For Success

Humans seem to have a strong need to test love. “If they really loved me or if I was truly important to them then they would …”

We all have our own expectations of our friends, family and significant others.   How successful have you been lying in wait to see if they will perform?  Do you ever put  people into situations where they cannot possibly hit the mark, only to smack them with your discontent?

Rather than setting your spouse or friends up for failure and then making them suffer the quiet or loud disappointment, help them out. Recognize that you have an unexpressed expectation that you are waiting for them to live up to and that everyone has their own needs.

It doesn’t matter if we are talking about the amount of fuss made about a birthday, the need for quality time, the expectation that he/she will notice your new workout duds. It’s not fair to expect a mind reader.  It is also not fair to expect more than you know they can give.

This week stop waiting and teach a certain someone how to love you. Don’t ask for more than they can give.  Once expressed, understand that there is not an obligation for follow through.  But, if they do, accept it for what it is. Humans also have a very strong need to please.

Set someone up for success this week.

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